Workshop - Newport Beach 1980- Page 3 of 8

Continuing.....

(Yes.)

And have you?

(Yes. I have.)

And you.

(A long time ago.)

And so we can generate energy just like we can dissipate it.  Now the way we were created and put together was to generate and use it immediately.  That's the way we were designed.  So if I were to stand up on the chair and decide to jump off, I would generate exactly the amount of energy it would take this moment so I would hit the floor and not be injured.  But ordinarily we do a lot of generating of energy when there is nothing to do; and we sometimes dissipate a lot of it when there isn't anything to do, so we frequently find ourselves in an unbalanced state of energy.  We either got a lot that hasn't been used which has to be burned up; and we sometimes find ourself where we've burned up a lot of it unnecessarily and we're not generating any and we find ourselves depleted.  Is that about right? 

We want to understand what's generating energy and what’s dissipating energy because we find lots of people that are very dissipating of energy. 

Now energy is generated in “response to a feeling” and it is also dissipated in response to a feeling. 

Now there is certain feelings that generate energy.  The feeling of anger will certainly generate a great gob of energy; and  consequently, a lot of people enjoy being angry because they generate a lot of energy and they feel better than they have felt for a while.  You can understand how that works quite simply, huh?  You can get very angry and you generate a lot of energy to fight. 

Now fear also - - anxiety generates a lot of energy because that is also the energy you would use to run with, huh?  So what would be the appropriate thing to do with energy generated from anger?  Marguerite, what would that seem to be? 

(Eliminate it?)

No, you fight - - fight somebody!  That's the thing you do when you’re angry - - you want to fight, isn't that correct?  Isn't that what the whole idea of anger is?  You want to fight one way or another.  So maybe there is no fighting.  Perhaps you're in one way or another inhibited from fighting.  Now Once you have the feeling, the energy is mobilized.   But let's say that there was nothing that you could really fight at the moment; and most everybody here that's been angry in the last few years didn't fight anything, is that correct?  Too hard on your clothes, isn’t it?

(Right.)

So you don't do that.  So then you wouldn't fight - - you have an inhibition about fighting in one form or another because you're a lady now and you're grown up and ladies don't do things like that, right?  So you have the mobilized and held energy.  Now the only thing left is to use the mobilized energy up in adaptation; and in adaptation you usually get sick some way or other to burn it up because the body will not survive with an unbalanced energy level - - you're designed to create it, generate it, and use it immediately - - that's called creativeness.  And this would be mobilized and held and the only way to use it up would be adaptation - - some set of cells in the body would begin to do something unusual in order to burn it up and use it up.   Now if you were a real good person, you would hold it in still a little longer and you would wind up very very sick; or if you were not so good, you might go on a binge; but binges are not socially acceptable, right? 

So those would be a dissipation of energy.  Perhaps you have fear which is to be fearful somethin' terrible's gonna happen, but you don't know what to blame it on - - fear dissipates energy.  Also apathy and  boredom - - there's just nothing that interests me - - any of these would lead to a dissipation of energy.  You just leakin' it out all over the place; and there is nothing of any interest to generate.  You really couldn't generate any.

So, then, the things that might work to generate energy would be enthusiasm or vital interest; and for those you would then use the energy because there's no inhibition about going ahead and doing it, ok?  So then you can generate a tremendous amount of energy for something you can use right away - - these we consider as fairly healthy attitudes or feelings, right?  You'd say that is fairly healthy. 

When you want to build a house and you get enthused about it, you generate enough energy to go out and get everything done to get the house on the way, is that right?  You get other people motivated to do their thing.  So you get it all done.  But if you say “Ohhh, build another damn house."  Huh?  You wouldn't generate any energy to do it.  Now most people feel that most of the things they do is just not all that worthwhile.  How many times have you ever felt yourself or had somebody around you say, "There's just nothing worthwhile for me to do?" 

And then we frequently ask people what do you want to do and they can't come up with any answer on it.  Huh?

(They’ve already drawn a conclusion.)

Right?  So there just isn't anything that they really want to do, so then that person is depleted of energy, ok? 

Now we dissipate energy by having feelings of resentment, because then we're burning it up, and it actually burns the body up while it's doing it - - it's the biggest dissipater of it - - or any of those things we hold in after we been having anger - - held motion or held energy can do that. 

Now we'll try to talk about what you can do with energy or motion - - I think they're inner changeable. 

(Yes.)

So we can generate our energy.  We can hold energy or motion.  We can return it or we can destroy it - - and that's four possible things you can do with energy when it comes along.  You can generate it, hold it, return it or destroy it.  Now if you were angry and somebody comes in and you received a bit of energy from their anger and you returned it, we have a fight and as we said, that's hard on your clothes, huh?  Real hard. 

Or we could be very polite and hold it; and then, of course, we get ulcers and headaches and backaches and all sorts of other miseries that come along with it or there is still one other thing we can do, we can destroy the incoming motion from somebody.

Say somebody comes up and gives me a bit of anger.  I could destroy it because I see that it is totally worthless, ok?  So we use the thing called Agape to destroy energy - - incoming energy from somebody else - - they're doin' what they feel is right, proper and justifiable and I'm not having any of it, ok?  And then one is free to generate energy and I can begin to be friendly to the person.  I can have a nice feeling about them.  I can be enthusiastic about gettin' along with them or gettin' away from them, either one would be all right.  Just get out of the area.  And then we can be generating energy.  Now I think that most of us could usually stand to be able to be a human generator, huh? 

[Definition of Agape - AGAPE means to see that what everyone (including self) is doing, ever has done, or ever will do, at the moment of doing, it is felt to be right, or proper or justified with what light the person has at that moment.  More description under “definitions” on webpage.]

Now we talked yesterday that by the way you act, you will produce a feeling, is that right?  Now if you have a feeling of enthusiasm or vital interest or even just being very thankful that you're alive and all in one piece today - - able to get around, you are generating tremendous amounts of energy. 

If I generated a bunch of anger energy, every one of you would want to be away from me.  It's a repelling energy.  Now it may be very energetic, but it would be repelling to you 'cause there's different forms of it. 

If I was very enthusiastic, you would like to be around me.  If I'm very happy, you would like to be around me, is that correct? You like to see if you couldn't be around me if I was laughing and having a good time.  It's a very pleasant situation to be around - - it's very attractive - - in fact, it's downright beautiful, isn't it?  And so then you would want to be around that kind of energy, huh? 

But if it was anger energy or hate energy or any of these kinds, you want to get just about as far away from it as possible, is that right?  Now if a person is very energetic, do you like to be around 'em?  Huh?

(Yes.)

And how about people that's just; well, you say. "How are you." and they tell you.  Here comes a string of complaints, all downers.

(No.)

We had a suggestion for a new occupation the other day for all the people who tell you about “how they feel”.   We're suggesting that somebody starts a service of writing up a resume of all their illnesses.  Now when you ask them how they feel, they can hand you the sheet; and you can read it at your convenience.  Huh? 

(Just how you feel at this moment?)

No, each person has their own already made up and they hand them out so they don't have to go through all their sad story every day.  So if you said to somebody, "Good morning, how are you?"  That person would hand you the sheet with all their ailments.  They’d just hand it to you and you can go off with it, ok?  And that could work in the reverse if you like to talk about you’re ailments.  You’d give them your sheet.

Now do you like to be around people who are very very pleasant? 

(Yes.)

And a pleasant person is full of energy, is that usually the situation?  Huh?  They generate it because they are thankful.  Now when you're very thankful and your very alive and showin' off your pretty wines and everything, people like to come, don't they?

(You bet.)

And when you're down in your dumps.

(They don't come.)

They don't come, do they?  Now we have talked about this in relation to a business.  You’re in a business and you're generating a lot of energy from a very high mood of enthusiasm or whatever - - it could be thankfulness, you name it, plain downright gratitude that you're alive, ok?  People flock there for some reason.  They don't know why; but from way off over there, they will come because they are attracted to that feeling.  Now most of us are unaware of what's attracting us to a place.  I have people tell me, "Well I just stumbled in to that place."  But then they keep coming back all the time.  Now they didn't just stumble in or maybe they did; but something was attracting them and they kept going toward it in spite of themselves.  They had no particular intention, but you follow things where there is energy levels of a kind.  Now if there is an angry bunch of stuff goin' on or a bunch of worry or a bunch of contentions, even though you've meant to go to the place, you basically would not get there.  You would keep finding excuses not to get there.  Maybe that's the reason you sometimes get there a half an hour late.

(It could be.)

It could be that there is a certain energy in that place - - a kind of it - - say its anger energy or contention energy or something.  You'll find a jillion little things on the side to distract you from going, hoping that maybe you won't need to go in the first place.

(Well, I decided when I went some place the other day that  I'm not going back.)

Now then you found out about it.  You see there's a form of energy there you didn't like, is that correct?  So whether it is anger energy or resentment energy or whathaveyou.  Now could you generate not only energy, but the kind of energy you want to be around.  I prefer to generate a certain kind of energy - - not just energy. 

Now you'll feel better if you've been depleted and you get real angry.  You'll feel full of vim, huh?  But nobody wants to be around it.  So I much prefer to generate an entirely different kind of energy - - one which you would like to be around, huh?  One which you would like to be around, and when you find that kind of energy, nobody has to tell you to go around it, you want to on your own, is that correct?

(Right.)

Ok?  Now what kind of energies do you think you'd like to be around?  Now let's assume for a minute, and I think we're correct that everything that attracts you or repels you is a kind of energy.  Neal would you go along with that - - the things that attracts you or repel you is kinds of energy.

(Yes.)

Ok.  Now if somebody attracts you, it is because they have a certain kind of energy; and you like to be around it.  If somebody repels you or leaves you "blah" neutral, it is another kind of energy that you either don't want to be around or really doesn't give you a lot of interest.  Now what kind do you most feel you would be attracted by?

(I like when you're serene.)

That's a pretty good one, ok?  Now that, of course, is vital interest - - that a person is vitally interested - - they're serene and peaceful and it's kind of nice to be around them, right?  Now enthusiasm is not quite as serene - - it's serene and peaceful, but it's more alive - - it's more vibrant, huh?  So that's like the music's turned up just a little pitch on the volume.  You turn the volume up just a little bit.  And what kind attracts you, Marvin? 

(More of the same.)

More of the same.

(More alive.)

Like she said here, right?  Now what repels you most?  What kind repels you most?

(Negative.)

Well, a downer.  What would repel you most? 

(Frantic energy, people who are...........)

Excitement.

(No not necessarily excitement, ummm.....)

Confusion?

(Yeah, confusion.)

Confusion, that turns you off.

(Yeah.)

Now you don't want to be around that right? Now confusion does create a lot of static in being all kinds of stuff going in different currents.  And that is not pleasant to be around.  Now you go in a business where there is confusion - - have you ever felt that? 

(Yes.)

Have you ever been in a household where it was goin' on emphatically, huh?  Right?  Have you been in a household where there was serenity and peace and love goin' on?  You like to go there again?

(Yes.)

Very much so, huh?  Correct?   Now can you by your own efforts and your own intentions generate the kind of energy you want for all the rest of us to be attracted to or repelled by?  You can.

(I can do anger and ......)

You're real good at that.  How about the others.  Now those don't really grab me - - those don't ask me to come in.  Those don't ask me to want to go back or anything else?  What kind of energy do you usually generate on Sunday? 

(Ahh, I’m more enthusiastic.)

Do a lot of people come? 

(You bet.)

And they're all havin' a very good time and want to come back; and they talk about what a wonderful place and what a wonderful feeling there is here.

(That's right.)

Right?

(That's right - - 2 1/2 hours late last night - - I got in trouble for that.)

But now then the next day what kind do you generate? 

(I'm dead.)

There's nothing of interest, but if you still had the same vital interest and enthusiasm going on, you could still be going wouldn't you?  So people are attracted and repelled by forms of energy.  Now we're told that all energy has a certain vibratory rate.  Now I think that one said it was (writing waves of board) like these jagged waves huh, and you don't want to be around that because there's all kinds of cross currents and discords and everything striking together.  Now if it's smooth and rhythmic, you feel real nice there, ok?  Now can you by taking charge of your own action; thereby producing a certain type of feeling that you would prefer to present to the world.  Can you take charge of your energy generation and the type you generate.  Now just generating any kind of energy is not quite what we mean.

(beginning of next tape)

....anyway, he used to generate energy waves she didn't like, right Beth?

(Right.)

He generated waves you didn’t like, but, you know, you can instead of fighting and complaining about somebody else's energy waves, you just get one higher and generate the kind you would like for them to put out and they'll do it.

(Yes, I checked it out.)

Well, now that's what Beth did.  She got off the rock and roll station and went for easy listening - - somethin' like that.  Now what kind you want to put out, all kinds?  Maybe you want all that static and stuff to stop or....

(I want it to stop, but I was thinking that when the whole family is....)

But who's responsible for the household's level, you or others?)

(Well, I'm responsible for mine....)

Yes, and you can, by taking yours two notches higher at least, than everybody else's, generate that  level and everybody will follow, ok?

(That's what I _____)

You think that if they would shut up.......

(Well, yes, I did think that.)

Ok, so let's say that somebody is generating anger here.

(Ok.)

The next one above that is boredom and the next is contentment.  Even if you only generate contentment, they will shut up in a very short order.  It just quits like that.  It really does - - don't take my word for it, go try it out. 

(When you generate enthusiasm without ___ - - we'll say that you're in a restaurant situation or ....)

Yes.

(You generate so much enthusiasm about everything............)

Without opening your mouth, that's true.  I can do.  And it even travels at a distance and you don't hear a word, is that right?  It will be there because you can start it going - - yes. 

Having run restaurants, sometimes they're very noisy.  There's certain people come in - - especially if they've been waiting two hours in a holding pen and they've imbibed a certain amount of alcohol; they're very noisy and I don't like noisy restaurants.  I like a pretty smooth hum. 

So I've walked out in the middle of the place, leaned against a post and in 15 minutes it's quiet and the pretty hum is back.  All you do is generate some serenity in there over the level of the booze talkin', ok?  That's all it takes; and you can do it without saying a word to a single person, but you've really got to be feeling it! 

So I can act enthusiastic without ever opening my mouth.  Now, of course, in my case the mouth gets involved in it because I'm, as Margaret says, the storyteller, so I'm liable to start saying something right quick.  But in many cases, I  just go stand against a post in the restaurant to calm it down because it's getting out of hand when it starts getting staticy.  The next thing they do is start complaining; and when they start complaining, they start causing other people to do the same.  So we go out and generate a wonderful bit of enthusiasm; and they would all come down to the nice pleasant hum that you can hear in a restaurant where everybody's very happy with what's going on.   All the customers are happy.  And that is a very decided asset; and you don't have to say a word.  You can only act the way the body is.  In other words, you can wear a smile.  You can stand up straight like you were feeling vibrantly good, huh?

(Yes.)

That you could barely keep your feet on the ground.  You're about to levitate.  That's what it takes to get it there.  And that's the way it works; and it will do it very quickly.  Ok, let's have comments, discussions, points, things that we should have said and didn't say, ok?

(And you levitate with a feeling of thankfulness or gratefulness.....)

That would be one of 'em - -enthusiasm for living.  I'd start with at least being very thankful, yes.  And I could go a little bit higher, you know, you could go up to where you were just decidedly enthusiastic about something; but then definitely start with the level of at least being thankful, ok?  And you got to act it out now - - not just talk about it.  The body has to be involved in these things not just your head now because I have never seen a mind running around by itself; and I've never seen a body runnin' around without some sort of a vital system in it.  And I've never seen the vital thing running around without a body.  So don't think you're a mind and a body - - you're a human being and that includes both of 'em - - the whole thing's gotta work or you're not generating. 

In other words, if you had the greatest dynamo in the world and you had a great waterfall to run it with, but you didn't have the water pouring on the paddlewheel, you wouldn't generate any electricity, ok?  So it's all of our person has  gotta be involved in it.  In other words, I think this is probably what is meant by commitment.  It's easy to sit and think about something, huh?  But unless you act upon it, it is totally worthless. It has no value, no push, no punch, no nothin' else.  If you act without being aware of what you're doing, it wouldn't have any punch, ok?  But you are a unit,  and all of you has gotta be involved in it. 

Now it's very easy to sit around and say I'm thinking positive.  I'm gonna think very positive.  I'm thinking so positive, it's bound to happen; and it's not gonna happen, I'll assure you.  You've got to act upon it and that is only when you have committed yourself to doing something that you're totally involved with, right?  Now you can't leave the body in Potomac, Maryland and take the mind down to New Smyrna and build a house, is that right?  Or vice versa.  The whole thing's gotta go, is that right?  Now the whole thing's involved in anything you do.  So suppose you sit around somewheres and thought how much you love somebody, but you never did act any better than (he mumbles).  But oh, I'm really thinking these beautiful thoughts in there.  Think he'd be impressed with that Margaret?

(No.)

You want the “bod” to go along.  You want the body to go along with the mind, is that right?)

(Right on.)

You'd better believe it.  Let's kind of get these things straight so that we're totally involved - - and that's what's called being committed.  Now are you committed to feeling top of the world Miss Marilyn?  Now if you do, you take the “bod”  and the mind together on that commitment and you'll have it.  But if you're gonna think about it and let the body do an "I'm so tired this morning." then flies are all over the ointment. 

You can do it anytime you want to - - but as I said, you can do it either way.  The only point I'm making is that when you're gonna do something, all of you goes, not just positive thinking or acting, but you're totally committed to doing something, then everybody better get out of your way - - that right Miss Joy?

(Lots of people.....)

When you are totally committed doing something, everybody better get off Lido Island because they're gonna get run over, that's all there is too it, huh?

(Ok, I’ll do it.)

She’s gonna do it.  Ok, any other questions, comments.  Yes sir, I'm listenin'

(I've been to sales meetings where people use this technique, you know, they literally get up and beat a drum and sing songs.)

That's why they call them drummers.

(Right. Now I would enjoy an experiment.  I would enjoy not doing that - - not drumming and singing.  How about more conventional ways - - raising the mood here to tremendous enthusiasm.)

Ok, you want me to do it or are you gonna do it. 

(I would like you to do it.)

I was trying to get everybody else to do.  I've already got it. 

(That might be tomorrow.)

Well, it might be manana.  I've got a tape in here I'll play for you, how's that?

(I don't know, how is it?)

Well, we'll let you listen to the tape and if you'll do what the tape says then you'll be all full of enthusiasm.  I’ll get the tape and play it for you.  I'm already enthusiastic; and it's up to the other people if they want to be.  Now I notice that some are lifted up a little bit here. 

(I heard some giggling’s.)

Yeah, I heard little giggles and a laugh here and there and somebody is a little bit on the ball.  But I could do that; but as I told them the other day - - for $5,000 a person, I'd do that, but for a lesser amount, I'll only tell you about it.  But I'll let you listen to the guy that they paid the $5,000 to.  Now you can get it - - that'll be easy, huh?  I'll turn him on in a few minutes and you can have it.

(After four.)

Why after four? 

(We want to hear you.)

Ok, Charles wants ............

(I don't want to listen to a tape.)

Well, I'm doin it, I'm already doin' it.

Ok let's take a break for about 15 minutes and we will have another session before the days over.

[tape starts with…]

(I'm pretty sure you're talking contagious emotions they use in these $5,000 workshops.)

Right, they’re highly contagious.  So all you got to do is scream and somebody else will scream.  You tell them all to holler "Go!"  It's on cue, everybody will go.

(It's hard not to.)

You feel embarrassed if you didn't do it.

(And you go beyond that - - actually you’re under pressure.)

Yeah, because you've been a little hypnotized to do it; and if you don't do it, you really got to fight not to  - - that's correct.

(There's people been trying to do that to all of us for a long long time ____ you recognize something you don't like so you start developing an immunity.)

Right, a certain immunity to all that junk. 

(I have a question?  It's has always interested me that when a group of people come into a room and take certain chairs that whenever the group comes back to that room, everyone takes the same chairs?)

Well, it's their chair.   Don't you know that?  When you get on the airplane, if you leave your seat, you got to put an occupied card in there, everybody knows that they got their chair - - it becomes yours.  It becomes a rental house  because otherwise, people would feel they've been put upon if you sit in their chair - - wouldn't you Marilyn?  Somebody took your chair, huh?

(Now if somebody sits in the chair you've been sitting in for a while, wouldn’t you feel offended?)

No, let 'em have it, as long as they left one over there for me;  and if they didn't, I'll go hunt me up one.  I'd rather not have it that way - - but it is the nature of things.

(Why is that?)

Well, we're told to do that as children.  When you went to school did they tell you that was your seat?

(Sure.)

It was your seat; and if you went fussin' around, they said, "Chris get back over there to your place."  Right?  So we've been conditioned since childhood that when you once sit in a chair, it's your chair at that place.  When you went to the table to eat, if you sat in another chair, somebody told you to get over in your place - - little brother said, "She got my chair."  Right?

(Yes.)

So we've been conditioned since infancy that when you occupy a certain space once, then that is continued to be yours; and one simply does not move around. 

(That's right.  It's very territorial.)

We'll we're taught that because that makes everybody feel secure.  Everything's in its place.

(It's easy for them to control it.)

Oh yeah, right.  Well that's like the school teacher, it's much  easier for her to remember the chair than it is to remember the kid's face in many different places and then to have to say, "Oh, over here."  So if you got it in a certain place, its an easier sequence; so it started very early in life that we were to occupy a certain place; and if we start moving around, somebody is going to object to it.  So everybody is just acting mechanically as we have been properly taught to do.  That's what Neal and I were talking about intellect. That's a part of education.  The intellect says that you don't just go sit in first one place and then another.  You have certain chairs at the dining room table that everybody sits in and if somebody gets in the wrong one, it's all upsetting, huh?  Right? 

So we're gonna talk about some common misconceptions.  Neal wants to know what the intellect is?  So the intellect is that portion of awareness that is educated.  And we were just talking about a piece of it here.  Now that is a great time saver.  That's why we put it that way.  It's necessary to make it; but it is also rather essential that we check up on it from time to time to see what concepts that we have in the intellect because that's what we're gonna live by. 

So if we have a concept in the intellect that says, "Others either make me happy or unhappy."  Others do that.  So now then we begin to be where we are totally watching to see how the other treats us, huh?  Now somebody else can make you unhappy - - certain days of the week, huh?  Then they are the cause of your happiness or unhappiness from time to time, is that correct? 

(That's the way I see it or as you say the intellect sees it.)

I will not buy it.

(I know that.)

That is a misconception - - a very common one; but it is a misconception. 

Another misconception is money will make people happy?  Did you ever hear that one? 

(Um hum.)

That's another common misconception. 

Being in a state of stress most of the time is simply human nature?  That is another misconception.

Now let's take all of the things we ever managed to blame in our existence.  Do you have any things you blame for unpleasant, undesirable situations.  Would you care to name one or two of them please?  Not by proper names.  

(Who makes me unhappy?)

Now what can other people do that makes you unhappy?

(Their state of being.)

Their state of being.  Who's in charge of your state of being?

(They are.)

Ok.  Other's are in charge of my state of being, is that right?  Huh?  In other words I can't take charge of it because other people have charge of it, is that right?  Now as long as other people are in charge of it, I'm in a mess because they probably got something to think about besides my inner state of being, is that right?  Now if they can be in charge; how come you can't be? 

(We'll they're not in charge either.)

Oh, it just happenstance - - your inner state is just bouncin' around.

(They've been bouncin’ too.  They pick it up from someplace else.)

And so they didn't have anything to do with it.

(Nope.)

Who does? 

(Oh, it’s just sort of a mishmash - - whatever...)

So then it's a happenstance as to how you might feel - - it's purely accidental.  In other words, my state of being is purely accidental.

(Most the time.)

Is that correct?  No, that is another  misconception.  You can be in charge of it 100% of the time.  Now if you would drop that misconception and start taking charge, you could be in charge of how you feel at all times.  Now which one would seem to be the most desirable state of being for you - - to be the victim of circumstances or to be able to be totally in charge at any time? 

(Be totally in charge.)

Ok, you may do so; and you can kick this out as a  misconception you got in the intellect.  Now it's similar to being brought up and trained to go sit in a certain chair.  I don't say that sitting in the same chair is either an advantage or disadvantage much - - it's just interesting that we were all taught to sit in our own chair at school and at home.  And so we're gonna do it all of our lives because we've never checked up on that concept as an adult.  It doesn't matter a whole lot; but I don't guess it would hurt us if we did or didn't; but this one - - this misconception of others make me happy or unhappy - - can be very detrimental don’t you see, huh?  As I told Neal, if he had a misconception or maybe it's not a misconception that the moon is made out of soured cottage cheese, it's not gonna affect anything.  It's all right to keep it or tear it out - - it's not gonna change anything.  But this one about the state of being would definitely be worthwhile to change.  Neal? 

(Bob, there's a little confusion in the point of romantic relationships.)

No that's tomorrow's talk.  We're gonna do that one manana.  But we'll talk about it now.  Go ahead.

(Ok.  I mean in romantic relationships another person is making you happy.)

Oh, I wouldn't think so!  No, no, no, I'm very happy because I have her around, but she's not making it.

(Ok.)

There's no doubt that the “way I see her” certainly contributes to my well-being. 

(Ok, they contribute to that.)

I said the way “I see her”.  You see if I look at her like she's probably gonna be “picking on me” then I'm gonna be dependent on her not doing that and I'm putting myself in a box here.  You'll be far from what you're talking about her possibly having the ability of making you happy.  No, I can choose how I'm going to see everyone, ok?  Now once I make up my mind about it and put it in the intellect, then I'm gonna choose how see everyone  from now on, you see? 

 (It's easier with some than with others.)

It is?  I think I can see how I'm gonna see everybody.  Now I'm particular how I choose to see certain people - - understand?  But nevertheless, I think I can choose how I'm gonna see anybody in this room or any other people.

(Now Robert someone can walk through that room in a fairly high state of being ok?)

Like the one in the door there.

(Ok, she just walked in and I pick up on her state of being, ok?)

Uh huh.

(And it's very pleasurable to be around.  It doesn't take a lot of work on my part either.)

But I still choose how I'm gonna see Miss Joy.  I chose to see her as a very dynamic lady a long time ago.

(I know you kinda see it.......)

That's the way I chose to see you.  So that's the way it turns out, ok?  So I chose to see her that way.

Now, somebody else could choose to see her as a damn show off, smart ass.  But I chose to see her as a very dynamic lady.  I did that a long time ago.  Now I could just as easily have chose to see her as a smart ass - - show off.

(Well it's much nicer to see her as a dynamic lady.)

It sure pleases me much better.

(Well but she sort of is.)

She's just as much of a smart ass as she is a dynamic lady if I wanted to see her that way - - right Hon?

(Right.)

We can do it either way.  Even she knows that.  And so am I.  See I can be described as a smart ass with the greatest of ease - - probably very accurately.  It's how you choose to see me, ok? 

Now we can choose how we will see everybody.  Now we “think that I'm a great judge of human nature” - - that's the misconception.  We're not!  We see people like we want to see them.  If I want to see someone as the most lovely human I've ever met, that's the way I'll always see that person. 

(……It's actually hard to see them in a nice state of being if….)

..if I took on the one I heard that you saw Miss Joy as a smart ass sometime ago?  Yes, could have a very hard time seeing her as a dynamic lady.  You see, I would just keep going back to the old way.  Now until I kicked that misconception  out; and said I don't choose to see her that way - -I'm not gonna do it anymore.  Now I'm gonna see her this way.  In other words, I can change the program in any computer in the world, right?  But you got to know what's in there first.  You can't have both the new one and an old one because then you get conflict, struggle and confusion when it comes out, ok?  Now what we basically try to do is to reprogram this computer which the intellect is a computer.  It's the product of education and our own choices.  And it saves tremendous amount of time because we don't have to check everything out by being aware of it all the way through every time we meet it.  We've got certain conclusions about things  which is a programming, ok? 

Now we go along and put one in there and then sometime later we decide to put another one about the same thing in there.  Now I couldn't carry two about, Miss Joy, like seeing her as a smart ass- - I couldn't do that without getting utter confusion.

(Ok.)

So I have to throw out the one that I don't want.  So periodically I drive somewheres just floatin' along to make a call, go to another town or some drive in a car.  I use that time to check on what's in the intellect - - how I’m seeing various and sundry things, people, events and so forth.  Now I cannot have this and this in here at the same time.  Now I can put 'em both in there but then I got nothing but chaos coming out - - conflict!

(Right.) 

So I say, "Well this one don't fit - - you know -- it don't fit my purpose at all - - I'm taken' it out and leave this one."  Now then I can function fine, ok?  You see that?  Ok?

(Maybe.)

I think so.  You cannot have two....

(I can’t have two diametrically opposed views....)

Two mutually exclusive ways of seeing the same person, situation or event.

(Yeah, ok,  Let's take Miss Eddy.)

Ok

(She's someone who is confused in her mind.)

That's very possible or a way of looking at it.  Now we could say that's one way of seeing it.  Now I could choose some other one.

(She's also very energetic.)

That's right, and I could say she has a very quick mind - - she can have many subjects in the same minute.  She's very quick on the uptake.  Ok?

(So would you say that to say confused would be inaccurate or would it be factual.)

It would be whatever way you want to see it.  I would choose to see it as a very rapid mind. 

(Ok, in other words it's definitely of value to see a rapid mind  rather than confused.)

Right because if you see it that way, that's the way you're gonna experience it. 

(And that’s the way you'll respond to her then?)

That's right.  Now if you look and see that she's very quick, she can handle many subjects in a minute, huh?

(Is that factual?)

Well, I don't know that any of them are factual; it's the way I choose to see her for my association with her.

(Is there a certain ability to see things as they are?)

In people?  No, they're all changeable - - so people are like we choose to see them dear.

(Oh, there's just the “thing” is the fact…)

Hardly.  There really isn't a fact at all, it's the way I choose to see them, do you see?  Now you chose to see someone fairly near you in a slightly different light one day - - we talked about, is that right? 

(Yes.) 

Now would you mind sharing with us how you had been seeing her before you and I talked - - the smart as of the first water.

(Absolutely.)

Right,and then we decided to see her as different - - as a person who was attempting to express her freedom, is that right? 

(Yes.)

Now, which one would you rather live with? 

(The latter naturally.)

Now did she have to change? - - or only the way you chose to see her.  That's all it takes now. 

(I started paying attention.)

She started seeing her as a different type of person, ok.  Now they're good buddies.  Before they were at each other's throats.  That was how you chose to see her was the only thing that that changed, is that right Miss Margaret?  Only thing that changed was how Margaret chose to see her.

(It's never the same at any given moment.)

Oh, they move all the time.  So I choose to see everybody as at least a very lovely person - - at least interesting.

(I can see somebody as being lovely and confused at the same time.)

Well, that's true, but I just don't bother with the confusion bit because then I usually have to have something to do with them sooner or later; and if I'm trying to deal with a confused person, I'm all torn up; but I can see them as a  very lovely person that gets along fine, ok?

(Un huh.)

So everybody in the world is no doubt as changeable as - - what's those lizard's that change their color every few minutes?

(Chameleon.)

Chameleon, but no doubt they are, so we couldn't say very much of anything about it, but you know something?  They're always to me as I see them.  So I choose to see everybody in pretty good shape, you know?  I like 'em all. 

(I'm trying it out.)

How's it feel?  Now knock out the old one - - you can't see them both ways.

(You got to knock out the old one out?  Ok, I'll experiment with that.)

Knock out the old one out because you can't have two viewpoints - - I can't see you as a wonderful person and as a terrible somethin' or other, you know.  Now that we can't do.  So there's no certain way that people are because they will respond to you about as you see them...

(See them?)

Right on.  Now then, that to me, is the major misconception of the world that “I'm a great judge of people”.

(I think you said that people will respond .....)

.....about the way you see them.

(Would it be appropriate or accurate to say they will tend to....?)

Well, that would be accurate, yeah; they will have a great tendency to respond to you as you see them.  Now they may respond to her as she sees them and to him how he sees them and to Margaret as she sees them and to me as I see them which all might be altogether different. 

(And how they see themselves is very very strong and that’s gonna be a ____)

Well, that would probably be a factor, but most people haven't bothered to choose how they're gonna see themselves, thank goodness.  Yes, Melba.

(I have contact with someone who kind of wears me out in that she thinks I'm a total non-achiever; and so when she's around me, she tends to tell me how much I should be doing and that I just do nothing; and that really is very wearing; and so I don't know what to do with her.)

Well, I would agree with her and not bother with it.  I would agree I'm the greatest non-achiever in the world.  I'm the GREATEST non-achiever in the world and I have been considered for some top awards as the greatest non-achiever in the world; and then go on about your business.  You try to think "Well, I should please her and be an achiever."  But, you see, that's just a not i talkin' out of her mouth.

(Yeah.)

So you just ignore it, ok?  Always agree with it and exaggerate it.  So you are merely being considered for the prize for the greatest non-achiever of the year, ok?  They're having a new thing like the best actress of the year and all these things - - the Emmy awards - - so you're getting it for the best non-achiever in the world, ok?

(She'd buy that.)

Well, let her have it. 

(That'll shut her up.)

You better believe it will shut her up.  So I would see her as a person who is a great believer in any kind of achievement; and you have achieved so little that you are practically assured of getting the non-achievement  award.

(I tried it, but the mind kept going back to the way I used to see her.)

Yeah, it's very bad to question so when you question any old conclusion you had of any kind, the mind has another misconception there that says you're in some way bad if you question any previous conclusions you've ever had.  So then it makes it a little difficult but being a reprobate, we can go ahead and check 'em out, ok?

(Is there a little bit of “A side” which I do that I don’t want to admit “I'm wrong?”)

Somethin' like that would say, "Here I was wrong for all these years."  So if we decide that somebody’s an interesting person instead of a trouble-maker, we've had to say, we'll I was wrong when I said they were trouble makers do you see?  Huh?  Well, I don't mind being wrong if it'll work better when I find another way of seeing them.  I find if I get on a road that doesn't lead to where I'm going, I don't mind sayin' I'm on the wrong road and turn around and get back on the main stream again. Huh?  Do you?  You ever lose your way to some ranch you're going to…….

(I have a fuss at myself.) 

“Oh you should've been…” - - “you're so dumb you couldn't even follow instructions. “  I know you have a picture of yourself as being totally incompetent, huh? 

(Yep, I've been trying to get out  of it or working out of it.)

Well, let's don't do it by degrees, let's just say that's not correct, you're the luckiest lady in Northern California, ok?  And you're not going to work at it, you just turn it down.  You can't work out of a misconception, you either see it's a misconception or it's not.  You can't work out of it, you just drop it.  If for five years you've been saying that 2 plus three equals 7 and you finally found out it was 5, you wouldn't have any trouble with seeing it as 7 anymore, ok?

(Right.)

You just say, “Well that was a goof”, that's it - - so we're through with it, ok?  Another question? Another comment?  Neal?

(There are a lot of misconceptions in the technical world.)

That is true; and they undergo great efforts trying to change ‘em every once in a while.  I have textbooks scattered over many years in the medical field; and they have diametrically opposed information from one edition to the next - - not two or three editions apart; but just one.  Now you always have to agree with the newest one.  It may be no more accurate than the one before; but that is the accepted way at the moment. 

(The latest information.)

The latest stuff out, right?  So then next year it's subject to change or maybe three years from now when they write a new edition, it's subject to change - - which is quite all right.  Now if you're in the scientific field, you obviously have to re-evaluate the information you operate on, is that right - - very obviously.  Certain drugs that were used a few years were considered great wonders are totally banned now; and things that were considered terrible are now accepted and so forth.  So that goes on all the time.  In all sorts of places in the scientific field, the things that were acceptable are not at all acceptable any more and so forth.  Some of them were even made illegal.  Some things that were illegal then are very legal now.  Ok? 

Ok, another question, comment.  Again, it's how you choose to see things; and you can choose how you're going to see everything; but you can't see two ways at one time, ok?  You got to cancel one to put in a new one.  You got to know what you're cancelling and know what you're putting in in the place of it and know that one is sensible and the other one isn't.  You’re probably as unable to prove the validity of one as the other, ok? 

(Ok.)

The personal evaluations anyway.  Dear ones we'll meet in the morning at approximately 10:00 am. 

Good morning.  What do you know this morning Ruth? 

(I know I'm "up" this morning.)

That's good - - that helps better than anything I know of.  You "up" this morning?

(Oh, absolutely.)

Totally "up" huh?  Everybody else obviously is including Betty - - she's very "up" this morning. 

Ok this morning we'll start off by talking about purpose and will.  Now most of our lives we've been talking about how wonderful it would be to have will power; and everybody tells me that their will power is very weak, is that the way your's is?

(Sometimes.)

You got strong will power.

(Pretty weak, I think.)

Pretty weak, ok.  We'll talk about will power for a minute.  Will power is trying to do something you don't want to do - - isn't that right? ...... Or you wouldn't have to use will power.  You don't think about will power when you're gonna do something you want to do.  When you're gonna take a trip, you don't have to think about will power

(You just go.)

....you just go, ok?  You pick up and go 'cause that's what you want to do, is that right?  But when you're gonna do something you really are not real interested in doing, you have to use will power, is that right?  So will power is another word for conflict.  (Laughter) Now don't think that's too funny 'cause that is an absolute correct.   A-side wins out over B-side, or B-side wins out over A-side.  It usually works that way; and we call that will power, huh?  So we'll say that you do something that you want to quit doing; and you use will power, huh?  So you're gonna quit eating as much or you're gonna quit smokin' or you're gonna quit using 4-letter words or whatever it is, it's something you want to keep on doing, but you use will power to quit and you're in a state of conflict, right? 

Now the purpose that most of us have had is not really our purpose; but “the” purpose that somebody laid on us when we were little folks.”  They started in by telling us what we should do, is that right?  Is that what you laid on your kids - - what they should do?  They should do something.  They also should not do something, is that right?  They ought to do so and so, otherwise they were not good people; and they ought not to do certain things.  There was certain things they must do and certain things they must not do - - that's about right is it not.  Is that the way it goes Margaret? 

(Oh yes, it does.)

And when they do do them, those should not's, ought to’s or must not’s, everything's up in the air.  So our purpose was put over to the side.  Our purpose was totally disposed of and shoved over on the side. 

Now somewheres along about the day you were born, you formed you a purpose.  We'll say the purpose may have been to regain a non-disturbed state, and a lot of this stuff was disturbing.  There was things you wanted to do you shouldn't do; and things you didn’t want to do that you were told you had to do, the list was very long, that right? 

So our purpose was shoved way off over here and replaced by the purpose of society which wasn't your purpose at all.  So then the thing you wanted to do, you naturally had will for - - you willed to do what you wanted to do, ‘bout right?  You always wanted to do that one - - wanted to go fishin' so you go fishin'.  If you want to go play in the woods, you go play in the woods.  You went out behind the barn to practice four letter words beause you weren’t supposed to use those.  So your purpose was shoved off - - therefore your will was put to bed; and it replaced it with the purpose of society and so it became will power. 

That’s another word for conflict; and consequently, we've grown up feeling that the natural state of the human being was to be in somewhat of a state of conflict, is that right Miss Becky? 

(That’s right.)

You've lived in it most of your life because you got this “laid on you” pretty well, the purpose of society is what you should do and you should not do and you ought to do and you ought not to do; and then it’s handed on to the next generation right?

(Oh yes.)

You pass it on to your children, no doubt, and they will pass it on again unless somebody catches 'em; and everybody has grown up with a good state of conflict; and we practice will power; and when we don't make the will power work then we feel guilty, is that right? 

(I do.)

And then, of course, that's not doing so well.  And if we manage to do it every now and then, we still wish I could'a done that, but I had to do this, is that somewhere's about right?  So these two belong together and what we've had was some widely separated, put away, put out of our ideas even; and we've listened to people talk about should, ought to, have to and must. 

Now I'll give you a little assignment that you listen not only to yourself but to everybody else and see how often the words "Well, I know I should do it."  or "I know I ought to do it."  and "I know I shouldn't do this."  and "I know I shouldn't think this way, but...” - - you know, the “but” goes in.  You can listen to all of this go on.  Now you will see that very few people in the world have a purpose - - including ourselves generally speaking.

Now let's say that our purpose was to regain the non-disturbed state as much as possible, ok?  Let's say, that's all right.  I'm fine, I want to do that.  Now the only thing is, I want to use reasonably grown-up methods to do it rather than infantile methods 'cause I'm not an infant any longer, huh? Right?  Now if that's really what I want to do, I do it.

So with having our purpose put to sleep, now let's reactivate it.  Now we'll start that my purpose is to regain as much non-disturbance as possible.  I like it that way, don't you? Huh?  I don't like disturbances.  I don't like fusses and all these things.  How about you Ruth?  But now I also know that the methods that I learned as an infant don't work now - - complainin', stickin' up for my rights, blamin' and all this kind of stuff, is that correct?  That just don't work - - tryin' to please everybody, but they're hard to please - - livin' by authorities of which we have many that contradict each other, huh?  And tryin’ to improve ourself.  Now we're gonna drop that, but I want to be as non-disturbed as possible and I'm gonna use grown-up methods to get it. 

Now what would be a grown up method to be as near non-disturbed as possible?  Take charge of my own inner state and live by it, is that right?  Now that's what I wanna do.  Now if I see that this is my purpose to be as non-disturbed as possible; and I'm willing to do it - - obviously that's what I want, then I would put these two together, wouldn't I?  Then I would have "purpose and will" joined together.  Now we don’t have to hunt up a new purpose and do a lot of thinkin' of what should I do because you'll find that’s already goin' on.  So we've simply have our old purpose only we're gonna use grown up methods to get it, huh?

(Right.)

Now the grown-up method is “seeming to me” to take charge of my inner state; and to take charge of being what I am, so I would be as considerate of everybody else as I can be - - doesn't mean I agree with them or whatever, but I consider that they have a viewpoint that's worthy for them.  It seems right to them whether I agree with it or not, right?  That I will be as harmless as possible and I'll make some contribution at least to a pleasant harmonious mood wherever I might find myself, ok?  Now that's all very simple.  That would be the way I would do it in order to gain the purpose of being as non-disturbed as possible, ok?  Now we don't have to dream up a new purpose.  We don't even have to struggle with anything; we got it down where we can go to work with it now, right? 

Now then I will eliminate all the shoulds and and the ought to's and the have to's and musts and the should nots and the have nots and so forth, ok - - we'll eliminate that.  Now I'm not interested in the purposes of society whatever those may be - - that I would fit some ideal; and of course, how many conflicting ideals has different people had for you all your life?  Great gobs of 'em - - a different one every day; so we'll leave those.  But let's see if we can't get along with all those people by being considerate, being as harmless as possible and making some contribution to Life - - at least a contribution to a pleasant harmonious mood wherever I may happen to be, ok?  Now I've got my same purpose - - don't have to change that.  I may want to later, but right now I'm gonna start with that. 

Now then we become for the first time a real person.  A real I is there because that is the real I and is the union of "purpose and will".  That is the first and only time that we're really one person; and otherwise we are three or four people in there runnin' around in a conflict.  One says, “I don't want to do something”, the other one says, “but we have to do it because it's the right thing to do according to some authority”, huh?  And then, of course there is a chooser between them so, at least, we have three brains operating or three different people inside of us - - we might say a three-headed individual - - and they do look funny. 

(Is one along side of the other, Bob or one above the other?)

Well, I think they would all go branching off out here.

This one says,
“I want to go over and have a cup of coffee”. 

This one says,
“but you gotta stay here and work”

And this one says,
"Well how am I gonna please both of you?" 

It's like having two kids that you get up some Saturday morning and one says, “I want to go to the zoo."  And the other one says, "I want to go to the beach."  Now if you take one and go to the beach, then the other one grumps all day long at you or maybe for a week later. 

If you go to the beach, the one that wanted to go to the zoo grumps at you all week or longer, huh?  And if you decide to do something else, both of them grump at you, huh?  So at least we have three heads - - we got one here and one here and one here; and this one goes down here and branches into this one and this one goes down here and branches into this one; and they all three wind up with one spinal cord and a body down here.  Now a little arm stuck out there and a leg stuck out here, and here's one little head and there's one little head and one little head.  Now you can imagine how you “feel” with all that going on all the time.  Now that is the way most of us feel all day long, huh?  Which one's am I gonna listen to and do? 

Now there's no purpose.  There is a pseudo purpose over here that society laid on you; and this one here agrees with B-side; and this one agrees with the A-side of it.  A-side says stick up for my rights, give 'em hell, blame 'em whathaveyou; and this is the poor chooser hung in the middle tryin' to decide which way it's gonna go or it just mechanically reacts.  That's mama with the two kids there, ok?  Right? 

Now that's the way most of us feel when we don’t have our own purpose consciously looked at.  Now I like this purpose of being non-disturbed.  It suits me as well as any; and it doesn't matter what your purpose is, as long as you're aware of it and consciously chose it.  If your purpose was to do the best bank robberies in the world and that was your only thing to do - - God helps you - - well, at least to get your head together and figure out how to do it, ok? 

I'm not contending' about what your purpose may be.  I'm not the judge of purpose.  I'm only saying that if you're gonna function fairly well in this world, you better only have one pupose, huh?   You can't have an A purpose and a B purpose and try to choose between them because that sure does mess up everything.  This one says for the body to go this way, this one says for it to go that way and this one says, "Stand still."  So you're in a mess. 

And this is basically what we see all over the world.  I have managed to travel around a bit; and I've had occasion to talk to more than two people within one body in my time; and this is basically what you're talking to.  So here is Joe.  Now which Joe am I talking to?  It'll change in mid-sentence sometimes.  You have noticed that, have you not?  This one's talking; and all of a sudden, this one will take over; and this one will just back off in a corner and not know what to do - - and these two will stand here and talk.  One will talk for a few seconds and then the other one talks.  One says something with conviction; and this one says, but and cancels out the beginning of the sentence and starts over with a new proposition, huh?  One says, "Now I'm all set up, I'm gonna open me a business - - I'm gonna make a lot of money."  And this one says, "Yeah but...."  Now that cancelled this guy out and this one says, "But we're gonna just play around a lot and the money's gonna fall out of the sky; and I'm gonna have a lot of money just because I'm entitled to it - - I've got great faith this is gonna fall out of the sky and I'm gonna just pick it up and use it every morning."  This one says, "Yeah but you'll have to work."  So these just sit here and cancel each other out - - this poor guy’s gone to sleep - he's just given up on the show.  Huh?  Like a mama that become “child deaf” when both kids are wanting to go in two different directions, mama becomes children deaf, you know, she can just listen to them and her head doesn't record a word of it.  That's the way this poor guy gets.

Now let's say that if you're going to function remotely well, number one, you must have one purpose - - doesn't matter what the purpose is, ok?  Now you can do everything you do in a day's time with using that one purpose.  So if my purpose is to be non-disturbed, I can certainly do everything I do today with the best of possible ability using grown-up methods to gain a non-disturbance, is that right?  Now that is what we call and integrated person.  Now what is integrated is purpose and will - - that's the only thing that can be integrated, incidentally. 

In other words, now you  have an agreement between purpose and will where before if all these shoulds and ought to, that purpose was to be a good kid or whatever; and the will was runnin' in all sorts of directions so they weren't together - - so that is the three-headed person. 

Now we only have one head - - this is what I want to do and this is the method I'm going to attempt to experiment with to get it.  Now that is a one-individual and that is what's called an integrated person - -purpose and will are in harmony. 

Now frequently we find that people say their purpose is to have something ok?  To have a lot of money.  To have a new house.  To have a new business.  To have new people around them etc.  Now that is not a purpose.  A purpose is always something you're doing, period.  Now if what I'm doing is to be as non-disturbed as possible, that's fine.  If what I'm doing is to be what to me is a good guest is a purpose.  To be as healthy as possible is a purpose.  Now then I have the will to carry those out, ok?  But now if I say "Well, my purpose is to get a million dollars next week."  That is not a purpose because I believe falsely from one of these heads that if I just had a million dollars I'd be very happy. 

(Couldn’t you say the same thing about health - - couldn’t you say well It's just trying to be non-disturbed.)

That's what we said was “being non-disturbed”.  It is now my consciously chosen purpose and one of my methods will be to.......

(I'd be happiest if I had a million dollars.)

Well, if I gotta have something in order to make me happy it won’t work, so I don't have to have anything to make me happy and I don't have to be anything to make me healthy, that's part of my everyday living, isn't it; of being non-disturbed.  I only want to be healthy so I won't be disturbed.  So I practice at being reasonably well - -

(If I had a lot of money....)

- - Well, if you have what you call a lot of money, I’ll guarantee you'll still be disturbed sometimes.  I’ve noticed that.

(Ok and if you're healthy you can be disturbed.....)

Well, you'll find some other way, but I, at least, wouldn't be disturbed about the body.  Now it's not something I have, it's something I'm doing.  So if I'm living in a reasonably hygienically manner in balanced ways, I won't be sick.  I'm not trying to get health and say if I could get it out of a pill or a potion or a magic formula or something - - it's a way of living, isn't it?

(Yeah, well can't you take spending money as a way of living?)

Well, you're gonna spend it, but are you having to have a certain amount in order to spend it?  A lot of folks I've talked to say that if they could see the magic number 1 and 6 zeros, a dot and 2 zeros in their bank balance, they'd be very happy; however, I have known some who got it - - even more - - and they became very miserable trying to maintain it; and they were afraid everybody was going to try to get it away from them.  And not only that the first check they wrote, it'd go below that, wouldn't it? 

(Right.)

Ok, so it's quite different.

(I just don't see the difference between using - - putting up an ideal of having a lot of money.)

I didn't say an ideal; I said something I'm doing.  Now I'm living as harmlessly to this body as I can, ok?  Huh?  That's all.  I'm being as harmless to it as possible; and that's the way it functions well.  So I said I want to be non-disturbed, ok?  And I know if I don't pay a little bit of attention to how this body operates; it's very capable of disturbing me mightily, huh?  Is that right?  Everybody here had some occasion where the body disturbed you, is that right?  Huh?

(Yes.)

So I'd just as soon not disturb it.  I'm going to be as harmless to it as possible, ok? 

(Also having a certain amount of financial support is....)

Is kind of useful, I intend to see about that; but not any given set amount. 

(Setting a.....)

Ok, so that's when you made the ideal out of it when you set an amount.  Oh, I intend to be non-disturbed every day and to have some kind of income - - or at least every week, huh?  I like it every day; but the point is, that some time through the week I'm going to expend enough effort to see if I don't have some kind of income for the week.  Now I don't say how much it should be or anything else - - and it usually works out enough to take care of all the necessities and a few luxuries, ok?  Huh?  So that's all we really need is just a few of 'em.  So that is only part of what I'm doing - - the way I'm doing it - - my purpose is to be non-disturbed as much as possible.  A grown-up method to get it would be to work enough to earn some adequate income, right?  To treat the body well enough so that it doesn't blow up and have all kinds of fits, right?  And the better your body works, the less you have bother with it, is that right?  The less your disturbed.  Now if it isn't working very well, do you get a little disturbed?

(Yes.)

Ok, so that you're using grown-up methods for it to be well and function rather than using magic potions that you can buy, is that right?  You haven’t started taking Lydia Pinkims pink pills or anything like that, have you?  What you do is you exercise; you eat reasonably well, huh?  You get a reasonable amount of rest and a reasonable amount of activity all the time, right?  Now isn’t' that your effort to be as near non-disturbed as possible?  Ok?  But you haven't said, "Well I have to feel any certain ‘set’ way." - - that you got a meter you stick on you every morning that says, click click click.  It's just that you're doing what you know leaves the least crying from the body as possible, is that right?  So I think that's all your purpose is - - that's one of your purposes/methods - - a grown-up method of being non-disturbed, isn't that right? 

So grown up methods and non-disturbance includes work for income, right? - - it would include activity of some kind to keep the body going well regardless of what kind it would be, right?  A lot of the work we do doesn't move the body; so we’d add some activity and that would include some appropriate nutrition; and if you felt the body was a little distorted, you'd try to get it straightened around so it didn't make noises, is that right?  Even a little tiny bone in your foot out of place will make some disturbances, is that right?  So you want to get the little bone put back where it belongs so that it quits disturbing.  So that's as much a part of being non-disturbed as how I treat people. 

I'm gonna treat the people with simple good manners or to be considerate of everybody, be as harmless as possible, and make some little contribution.  I want to make some contribution to the body - - be considerate of it and be as harmless to it as possible.  It's still the same difference.

(Yep.)

Ok:

(Um hum.)

Now I'm not saying that I have to have one certain state in order to be non-disturbed.  In fact sometimes I like to be very tired from physical activity.  I never have gotten around to liking being very tired from mental activity, have you Charles?

(Nope.)

That's the one I get tired on most the time; but nevertheless I see that's not the thing to do, so I try to knock it off once in a while, and not do it.  So our purpose is to be - - we have no trouble to be willing to do this when we see that it is the way we're non-disturbed.  Now we are an integrated person.  We are then one person, so the picture looks more like this; and that looks a whole lot better than this thing here.  This thing belongs in the freak show; but unfortunately most people are living this way.  It's just that it’s all encased in one's skull bone so you don't actually see it. Marilyn, have you ever been along that road where you had one head wantin' to go this way, one head this way and this one didn't know what to do?  That right?

(Yep.)

And it doesn't feel well, does it?  Now that's called disintegration.  It's called conflict.  It is called struggling towards an illusion that there can be some way to make these agree that you can have pseudo purposes or no purpose of your own - - have will power; and that if you practice it good enough, you will finally be all right.  Now you will be, you will be buried somewhere's and takin' up very little space on top of the earth and everything's all taken care of good. 

But I think that most of us would rather be around.  I kind of like being here even on the rough days, I figure it'll get better, don't you Marilyn?  Even on the rough days, I figure it'll straighten out after while - - some guy told me "this too will pass" no matter what it is.  Yes Marilyn?

(Bob on this purpose, you said I place an awful lot of time when choose a purpose, I keep going outside of myself to find someone who has an adequate purpose; and I try to pick up on it.)

And what did you ever find was an adequate purpose out there?

(I didn't.)

That's what I figured because most of the purposes you find  is to “have” something - - falsely believing that if they have it, it will make them happy.

(They're always left empty.)

Now can you have your own purpose?

(Yes.)

You're purpose is to be as non-disturbed as possible; and you use grown-up methods to get it.  Now the only methods  we're not gonna use that is the least bit different is we're not gonna use complaining, sticking up for our rights, blaming, trying to please everybody or improve ourselves or to try to find the proper authority.  Now you have been around people who obviously are always looking for the proper authority.  You ever been down that road Betsy?

(Yes.)

You go ask this guy what he thinks about it and he doesn't always agree with what you think, so you go ask another one, and then you go to another one; and none of them ever seems to work out too hot, is that right?

(That’s right.)

So let's have our own purpose and we don't have to hunt up a new one.  I'm gonna be as non-disturbed as possible.  Now I'm gonna use grown up methods to get it.  Now they're fairly simple. 

I'm going to be considerate of these bodies; and I'm gonna be considerate of this one.  I'm not gonna hit you with a hammer or knife or a gun or a bullet or an automobile if I can possibly help it. 

I want to try to be as harmless to these bodies as possible.  I'm gonna be harmless as I can to this one, huh?  I'm gonna be as careful to not be harmful to anybody as I am to myself; and I'm going to try to be as harmless to me as I can; and that would include all these things, would it not?  Huh?  So then if we use those sort of methods - - and I contribute to a pleasant mood so that there's four things involved in everybody's situation.  There's environment, inner feeling, activity and nutrition. 

Now I'm going to make a little contribution to each of those if I possibly can; and I'm certainly going to be harmless in those areas if I possibly can; and I'm gonna make a little bit of a contribution anywhere.  And I'm certainly gonna be considerate of ‘em - - I’m gonna be considerate to the environment, inner feeling, activity, nutrition - - not only for me but for anyone else around.  Ok now let's have comments, questions and points? 

You can do that all right Marilyn?  You can be fully integrated today.  Now I'm frequently saying that to people and people like to give me - - you know - - this head jumps up and says it can't do that.  It takes a long drawn out time. 

Now you can be one person today or you can be three; but you can’t be both.  Now the only thing you deal with is your purpose and will.  When they are in union there is a real I.  Before then, there is not I’s running the show. 

Now you can sit and talk to somebody and one set of not I’s will talk to you a minute - - all of a sudden there’s another set talkin’ that didn’t know a thing in the world about what the other one said; and we call them confused - - they just got three heads; and it is interesting if you can imagine sitting and looking at somebody that you do see three heads instead of one.  You understand them much easier then, you know what they’re doing. 

Did you ever hear a person tryin’ to buy something?  This head says buy it and this head gives all the reasons why they shouldn’t buy it.  In the sales business they call it objections; but you aren’t talking to the same person.  So I never talk to this guy, I just keep talkin’ to the one that wants it.  I never answer an objection, I ignore them; that’s just a not i that goes by.   Ignoring works a lot better than all the sales training when they tell you how to answer all objections.  

So, half the time you’re over here talkin’ to this guy; and half the time you’re talkin’ to this one.  You’re sure not gonna get anywhere because only one of ‘em can buy, and this one’s the one that wants it.   I’m just gonna spend my time with him.  And this one’s off here rattlin’ all objections, I’m just as deaf to it as I am to any other not i that I hear.  Forget it.  You don’t have a thing to say - - you don’t pay any attention to those.  And every sales course tells you how to talk to both of ‘em.  You talk to this one, and this other one begins to raise all objections that you’re supposed to pacify.  You can’t please ‘em both.  No way.  Just keep on talkin’ to this one that wants to buy. 

(Robert, usually what happens when you try to buy something, you go out and buy it and ----)

And then on the way home, this one gives you a fit.  It’s called “buyer’s remorse”.  And that’s when they come get a refund - -you got to give ‘em 30 days to do it now.  That’s terrible, cause you know, I know the remorse is gonna set in because that’s this one over here.  This one went and bought it and then this one on the way home said, “You jerk, you went and spent all that money for that and you don’t need it.

Say you decided to put new tires on the car or something else it needed to have.  But had you gone and bought the tires, do you know what it would have said?  It would have said, “You’d been better off if you went and bought a new one instead of spending all this money on the old one”.  You can’t please them.  This head doesn’t like this one, so there’s no way to please ‘em.  So that’s why I’d never talk to an objection in a sales pitch.  No way.  Ok, let’s have some comments about this situation here.  

Now you can be a fully integrated person today if your purpose and will are in agreement - - that’s what it’s all about and there’s real I.  There’s no conflict then.  Everything’s workin’ together - - that’s called harmony, harmonious - - putting it together - - workin’ as one unit.  We used to call these things Harmony Workshop until I found out there was no harmony around it so I thought that was false billing and so I quit.  I hear they’re all back together again now. 

(They had conflict?)

Right, gobs of it.  So that’s all right, I guess harmony needs conflict; but that’s what we used to call these things.

(What do you mean harmony needs conflict.)

Well, the way they were doin’ it.  They had gobs of it.  They had great gobs of it going; and I decided it was better for me to pull a Hank Snow and walk away because the conflict was getting’ noisy.  I would talk about something like “free to experience whatever arise in your way today” and some
not i got a hold of  it - - - maybe this one heard it and said they’re free to do things that was pretty far fetched.  I decided I’d better shut up and back off.

(The first time you said we were “free to do anything we wanted to”------)

I didn’t say that!  I said we’re “free to experience” - - this one says, “Well, that means you’re free to do anything you want to-----I know.

(Right and I went down the street and bought an ice cream.)

Right - - and three or four other people did other things as I recall, huh?  So I suddenly was an “authority” there; and I didn’t feel that was appropriate - - and I was quoted to justify every conceivable thing that was going on, so I decided it was time for me to head to the hills a bit.  Ok, any other questions or comments. 

(I’m having a hard time with the idea of interpreting - - being non-disturbed that I could be that way.  I mean - - - )

….that you could what? 

(That I could pursue that purpose of trying to be non-disturbed.)

Why not, you’ve been pursuing it all your life with infantile methods, why not just pursue it with grown up methods.

(When I think about home and using the grown up methods, it seems like it’s hard to do.)

It’s not hard to do; you just never have tried it.  You’ve tried it with infantile methods; and obviously, it never worked.  So after you’re two years old, infantile methods never work; but grown up methods will work in almost any situation.   You want to give it a “bloody go” and find out.    Now I know you’ve decided that home is turmoil and that’s the only way it can ever be; but that’s not true, ok.  It could be as nice - - I believe I can walk in anywhere and get a little bit of harmony going ok? 

(Ok.)

In a little bit, I can do that almost anywhere.  I’ve tried it - - even some staticky situations.  You can do it when you know what your purpose is; and you will to do it; and you have one head over here instead of three. 

Now when there’s three heads (people) and you put six people (six decisions in each head) together with 18 heads honey, you got noise.  And if you put two people together with six heads, you got trouble. 

(How about four people with ….)

….I can smooth ‘em down.  I can smooth it down if I’m the one that’s got the one head.

(And I can too?)

You can.  Anybody else can.  If you are there and you have one head, you can handle anything.  You know this is what much literature in the world is about that they have all kinds of people makin’ turmoil and noise - - soap operas are a good example, you got the whole bit of conflict, struggle and resistance to what is; and there’s one guy or one woman comes in and calms the whole thing down.  That’s called the hero or the heroine of the story.  That’s the person with the one head - - that’s what makes literature.

(So I have to be the star.)

Right, you better believe it, you be the star of the show; and you can very well have all these other nine heads doin’ quite well, ok?  Anybody can handle those other heads if you’re aware they’re there.  Now if you don’t know they’re there or you, yourself, got the three heads going, then there is utter chaos - - sooner or later - - that’s how it runs. 

(Um hum.)

But once in a while one of these gets in the act; and when it does, everything smooth’s out and straightens around.  Have you ever seen that happen Betty?  Somebody comes in that just takes charge and all of a sudden everything goes smooth - - that’s right, you’ve seen that in all sorts of situations.  So have you Miss Marilyn.  Somebody comes in and takes charge of it; and it’s the person that’s not all agitated and excited or any of these things.  This one comes in that’s got it reasonably together, has a purpose and a will - - at least on that subject; and they go in and go to work and everything smooth’s out.  That’s what you make movies out of - - that’s the theme of every movie you go see that was ever really worth it being called a movie.  Some of them now  just use up a certain length of time.  I have watched a few television shows and they just run along - - they shoot and run and fight and have chases for what ever length of time, then they quit .   They just used up the time, that’s all.  You have a little violence and a little dirty talk and a little chaos and when they run out of time, they quit - - there was no story there.  It’s just some incidents strung together - - like well, when are they gonna finish the thing so I can see what happens.  Ok, any other questions, comments.  You can be fully integrated today Miss Marilyn, ok? 

(I don’t quite know what my question is.)

Well, when it comes together, let me know.  This guy’s trying to get up and say something - - don’t let him (the not i) have it. 

(Ok we’ve got something here which is to be non-disturbed.   I’m adult about it, but I realize that…………)

I won’t get 100%, but I’m gonna get a high percentage.

(Ok, we’re not gonna complain………)

Because those are infantile methods.  Nothing wrong with them, they just fit kids not adults, ok?

(The first thing I do is realize that mostly there is infantiles out there.)

That’s very true; and so you know how to deal with infants - - you’ve raise a slew of ‘em huh?  

(Some things do not fit Robert - - come on...)

Well, now you’re going out to be as near non-disturbed as possible.  You’re not gonna get 100%, we know that.  So the grown up method is to be considerate of all these creatures….

(Ok let’s say all the kids walk in the house.  Ok everybody walks in.  One says I want dinner at 6:00 because I got to go here.  Someone says I want dinner at 5:30 and Mom you didn’t do this…..  John walks in and says this place better get straightened out right now; and I’m standing there listening to all this stuff.)

Well, I would say to the one that wanted dinner at 6:00 - - there is a kitchen there and there’s a few groceries in it.  The one that wanted dinner at 5:30 - - get with it.  John walks in and says get this straightened out, you say that’s what we’re workin’ on, help me.) 

(The funny part of that is, the kids actually like making their own dinner.)

Why sure, they’ll eat crud - - peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and there’s not much of a mess.  

(They’re not particularly happy.  What’s wrong is that’s not what they want.)

Well, what they want and what they get is two different things.  Yes they come in this way; but mama’s goin’…..

(I just used that, it’s like now if I….)

You’re workin’ on this one tryin’ to please everybody, then you’re in chaos and that has been one of your routines, you know.  You’re “way to be” was this - - please them all; and then this not i says, “Here you’re tryin to please all these grown kids and that big man, and nobody gives a damn about you.”  Then I hear from you.

(Ok.)

So there's nine heads walk in - - if you have one head, you'd be surprised how you can see how to handle them - - all with the greatest of ease. 

(And make 'em like it?)

I don't know that we make them like it - - we let them like it.  There's a difference dear.

(Think they will?)

Oh yeah, they'll be very pleased if you let them.  Now you're not gonna make anybody do anything; and you see this is sittin' back in here like this.  “I'm gonna make them do so and so”; and that’s when the chaos starts, right?

(But they really will....)

They will all be very harmonious if you lead the way with one head.  Yeah, they all see that "Man, here, there's no problem".  Nobody likes problems including those people that's always rattle, rattle, rattle, rattle, rattle.  They don't like it.

(Isn't that wonderful?)

So you can take charge of a far bigger bunch than you do - - one person walked in and has a purpose and a will and knows how to use a little bit of grown-up method, you can have everything calmed down in a very short order, very quickly.  Now you can do that anytime you want to.  I prefer to do it all the time.  I don't like to be around staticky turmoilly situations.  I like peace, quiet, joy, love, harmony and all that good stuff.  You can always have it.  You can always have it if you have your one purpose, you’re a single-minded individual.  This is a triple minded individual not just double - - it is triple.  This is a single-minded individual; and a single minded person can do about anything; and the triple-minded individual is only involved in being bounced two and fro like a chip out there on the ocean, ok?  That's the way most people run their existence.  Let's take a break for about 15 minutes and we will start again.

Ok, Marilyn said we should continue where we left off, is that right Marilyn?

(If you wouldn't mind.)

Oh, I don't mind.  Maybe the rest of the people will be bored with it, but would you like for it to continue on purpose and will?

(Yes.)

You’d like that.  You would.  Ok, we will continue.  I don't know what else I can say about it, but I will try.  Purpose and will.  Now purpose is what one decides to do.  Now I don't see how that is such a hard thing.  And what is the purpose we used a moment ago?  It was one we have been unknowingly using all of our life, so that shouldn't be any great trouble or effort, would it?  ....to do.  So what I want to do - - I'll try to be very precise about it even - - to do that which produces as little as possible disturbance of my inner state.  . 

To do that which produces as little possible disturbance of my inner state as it can be. Now that's your purpose, ok?  Now then, you would obviously will to have that.  If that's your purpose, you will to do that just like if you have a purpose to make a jug of wine, you go out and do the appropriate things, is that right?  That's what? - - that's the will - - that’s the doing.  Now if I don't want to do something, I have a hard time initiating the action, is that right?  I call it procrastination.  I can put it off for weeks and weeks and weeks.

(Right.)

You've done that.

(Right.)

Huh?

(Yep.)

Now that's when you have will power which there was something saying to do it; but you had more will power not to do it than you did to do it, but you went on feeling unfinished, incomplete, put off; and always just a little on edge.

(Right.)

Now if it's something you really want to do - - say take a trip to France, you don't postpone that and put it off, you just get with it, is that right?  Now the will is the action - - so “purpose” is the “want”, we'll say; and the “action to bring about the want” is the will, is that correct now?  That seems to be fairly easy - - now it's not will power then, it's just will - - you're going to do that which you want to do. 

You feel thirsty; and you will to get you a drink.  You go get a drink of water, is that right?  That's easy enough unless - - let's say that somebody had told you that drinkin' water was fattening; and so then you were thirsty, but you didn't want to get fat so you said, "Well, I'm gonna put it off."  Now you have a conflict.  You wanted the drink of water, but you didn't want to get fat.  See, the “but” comes in the middle of the sentence or thought; and that cancels it off and you're in a conflict; and so you’re using will power to put off getting the drink which you want to do.  Is that all right now? 

(Yes.)

Now when you see what it is you “want to do”; and it is compatible with what “you really want” not what somebody laid on you that you should do as you were taught as a child or somethin' - - now you start doing it.  Now they also told you most of the things you really want to do, you shouldn't do, is that right?  Or they said you can't do it or you're not smart enough or you don't have the proper degrees or all this kind of stuff - - who do you think you are to be a winemaker.

(Oh yeah, that's a new one.)

It's a little Mormon girl that grew up, so how in the world could you know about makin' wine.

(That's usually the first question.)

Yeah, where'd you learn how?  You know people always asking where you learned how to do everything.  Did they ever ask you that?  Where did you learn how to walk? 

(It was probably some authority...........)

That gives you permission to perform.  That's correct. But now you usually have to have some authority that says you are capable of performing before you can do it.  In other words you can't turn on a camera and make it do its thing unless somebody says you have permission to do it now, huh?  That's right.  And your husband couldn't paint a picture unless somebody says that he has permission to paint Smokey, the bear, is that right?  Somebody has to give permission for all these things before you can perform.  Where'd you learn how to run a restaurant?  You say, "Well, I did it." and that's totally inadequate, you know, because no authority gave you the degree. 

It's like a little widget that we have around here, we put it on deaf people and they start talking to us and that's not proof enough - - did Dr. House ok it yet?  Did John Hopkins ok it yet?  Did M.I.T. ok it yet?  The fact that the kid that can't hear thunder, you can put it on him and he starts talking to you - -  now he is not an expert.  He is a stupid kid.  And if he can start hearing and talkin' to you, that don't prove nothing.  It's what the expert that can hear says about it that goes.  So this is what can happen when you have “want” and “action”  that goes with it.  Now is that easy enough to understand, huh?

Now if you really want to do it, you find you have no procrastinations unless you have been conditioned that what you wanted to do was in some way bad, ugly, abnormal or fattening which is most of it, huh?  So then we get in turmoil about that, huh?  So there is very little “will” in the world, an awful lot of will power which is very very weak; but the integrated person has a want and can act freely without inhibition from old training that “you shouldn't do it” which was been the old purpose that was put on to people.  Not your purpose but the grafted on one, huh?  Now how long does it take us to see that all the shoulds and ought tos and have tos and musts was merely morals of some community that had absolutely nothing to do with reality or the present.  Now I don't want to do anything that's gonna harm anybody--period!  Now that is something I just don't want to do.  I don't want to do anything that would harm you in any way. 

Now does it make any difference what I do after that, Margaret?

(Does it make any difference after you have that?)

Yeh.  I'm not gonna harm you; and I want to do things which would be as much to my advantage to be non-disturbed as possible.  I'm gonna be considerate of you.  I'm gonna be as harmless as I can because I don't want to harm you; and I'm gonna make some little

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